They Say it’s Your Birthday🎂

They say it’s your Birthday! 🎂

Everyone loves to celebrate their birthday. You can bring a smile to the face of your friends, family, clients, and customers by sending them an email on their birthday. In this 13-minute tutorial, I describe how this process works. Let me know if you have any questions – Albert Kaufman – albert@albertideation.com

You can also join my birthday list, here. Don’t forget to fill out the birth date field! 

Happy Birthday,

Albert

4.2.26 – You say it’s your half-birthday? (How to use the process above to celebrate someone’s half-birthday)

3.22.21 – Here’s A fun Birthday Reminder Tool 

Also, Jackie Lawson’s cards are worth the annual fee which is very low.

Or, support the World Wildlife Fund via their fun, free service.

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Dance Guidelines

A friend in Seattle sent this my way. It might be good for our various dances to be guided  

FLYING TURTLE DANCE AGREEMENTS & GUIDELINES

Welcome

This is a free-form, family-friendly dance space.

Listen to your body, move to your felt truth.

Offer both impeccable respect and exquisite care to yourself and others!

Let “Yes” represent a genuine desire & “No” be an expression of honesty & kindness.

Yes, I Agree:

o To celebrate the different, individual ways we express ourselves and our identities, striving to dissolve preconceived ideas and judgments.

o To encounter another’s space sensitively, engaging in all interactions consensually. Honoring cues, whether clear or subtle. Start small and observe! Approach others with an awareness of the quality of connection needed for conscious consent, especially with people I don’t know.  Sense into full consent especially when touching, sharing weight or lifting.

o To stay fluid, gauging each dancer’s moment-to-moment boundaries. Move freely in and out of shared dances, without obligation to wait for a song’s end.

o To be willingly accountable for misunderstood signals. If someone does not respond to your invitations, please take that answer as a “no” and do not persist.  Do not approach dancers who are by themselves with eyes closed, or approach anyone from behind without prior consent to do so.

o To trust and honor my internal preferences, whether “I want this!” or “I don’t want this”.  Practice conveying and acting on whatever you hear within yourself. Do this often and as clearly as you can.

o To allow the safe expression of our whole selves, including sensual and sexual energies, by not engaging in deliberate touch of each other’s private sexual areas (including making out). We want to keep this public space safe for ourselves, for dance connection, and for the vulnerabilities of those who witness us.

o Not to presume that connection on the dance floor implies consent to advances off the dance floor.

o Healing self-expression is a primary intention for us. Including, yes, connection and community building! So please, no, let’s not confuse our dance environment with a pick-up scene.

o To refrain from substance use that could hinder one’s awareness or caution.

o To care for the health and sensitivities of some dancers by avoiding scents.

o To not wear street shoes on the dance floor.

o To cherish our immersion in this journey by refraining from conversation on the dance floor during the dance. (Do use your words when needed!)

¬ If you experience discomfort or harm, we are here, without hesitation, to support your sovereignty and security. Reach out to a facilitator or other trusted dancer the moment you feel the desire to.

¬ Since risk-free experiences are not fully attainable in such an exploratory space, our initiatives in addressing and repairing boundary mistakes are as loving and vital as our efforts to prevent them!

 

Grateful blessings, enjoy!

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FLYING TURTLE DANCE AGREEMENTS

The Skinny ~

 

Ì Move as you wish, honoring each Yes and No, your own and others, with loving care.

Ì Honor our individual identities!

Ì Engage consensually, releasing assumptions & expectations with free-flowing mindfulness.

Ì Reach out for support.

Ì Be open and ready to repair mistakes and for mutual healing.

Ì Hold dance floor conversation to necessities only.

Ì No substance use that could hinder awareness or caution. Sobriety, please!

Ì Refrain from scents.

Ì No street shoes, thank you! 


Learn more about how dance is good for your brain

Find out more about ecstatic dance in Portland, Oregon – where/when

Moondance Agreements & Commitments – Seattle

Evolution Agreements & Commitments – Seattle

Related: Spread Ecstatic Dance far and Wide
A healthy Community Model, by Sarah Kreisman

ecstatic dance

A note from Joshua Seaman:

September 6, 2018

I’m frequently reminded of one of the male privileges I have, of being able to go to ecstatic dance and do my thing and dance freely… without having to deal with regularly holding boundaries against unwanted advances from men trying to engage with me. In numerous conversations with female friends over the years, I’ve heard the same stories again and again of men uninvitedly getting all up in their space and trying to dance with them, or unwanted touching, or even following them around the dance floor when they try to move away. And it takes a lot of energy to deal with having to maintain energetic boundaries, and the conflict distracts from the enjoyment of embodied dance.

Men, THIS IS NOT OKAY. Yes, it’s perfectly fine to want to dance with women (or anyone, however they identify) and to initiate a dance. This isn’t to dissuade that. But to state the obvious: if she is in her own zone, leave her alone. _Especially_ if you don’t have a solidly-established dance relationship with the person. Getting eye contact and engaging body language is the standard. If she’s not looking at you, it’s best to give her space. When women are dancing, they’re well aware of who is around them and who they want to dance with, so if you’re not getting eye contact just assume she doesn’t want to dance with you.

When you get a more comfortably established relationship with your dance friends, this may change. You may see people initiating physical contact without first getting eye contact and consent – this is usually because they already have an established dance/friend relationship where that is welcome. This is not a model for how to engage people you don’t know, but the result of trust that has been established between the people over time. And even if you have danced with someone before, do not assume your touch is welcome. When in doubt, ask. It’s okay to hold out your hand and ask if they’d like to dance. Or if they’re looking like they might want support, ask if they’d like touch. If they don’t accept it, no need to take it personally.

I know there are many men who are great with navigating the invitation to partner dance. And the intention of this post isn’t to shame or blame those who have made mistakes or may not know how their actions affect others, but to offer guidance, and to share what the experience of women is like. (Women, feel free to add to this, as I don’t assume to speak for all of you, but am sharing the fruits of conversations). It is exhausting at times to hold energetic boundaries from unwanted advances, and that extra energy takes an emotional toll, and distracts from enjoyment and flow of ecstatic movement. Especially if you’ve dealt with trauma (like most of us have, being human) and are in your body moving with it. And of course, everyone is responsible for taking care of themselves, and voicing boundaries, or declining dances through body language or words. But verbal requests are a lot easier to deal with than people imposing on your personal space or touching you when you’re not open to it. We want to cultivate a space that is supportive for all of us for freedom of movement, expression, feeling, healing, play, joy, consensual connecting, and embodied dancing of what’s alive in us. And while we can’t make anyone else feel safe, we can engage with others in a way that honors and respects their boundaries.

Please feel free to add to anything I’ve written here, or to share this to spread awareness.


Dance a Day

3 Great Reasons to have a Personal Newsletter for Friends and Family

Starting a Friends and Family Newsletter

friendsandfamilyI’ve been using email to send out a newsletter to my friends and family for the past 16 years. The response has been fantastic and it’s made me a believer in taking the time to send word to your personal network on a regular basis. Here are my three top reasons why I think this makes sense.

1. You have a personal life and telling people that care about you what is going on for you leads to their having a greater understanding of your life, hopes, and dreams.  Once friends and family know more about what you’re up to – they can get behind any effort you’re making.  For instance, I had an idea a couple of years ago called Farm My Yard. It’s an effort to match up homeowners and urban farmers who live nearby. I’ve been mentioning this idea and dreaming it into existence for the past couple of years, and now that it’s starting to take off the people I’ve told are some of the effort’s greatest boosters.  And, of course, Farm My Yard has a newsletter sign-up form on the website 🙂

2. The feedback. We all want to know how we’re doing. When I send my newsletter out, I always ask for feedback. Over the years it feels like people take turns writing back with their thoughts, suggestions, and mentions of how they might be facing the same challenges and their solutions for making their way through.  Sometimes it’s just an “atta boy”, but some friends have deepened our relationship by sharing their thinking and real offers of help.

3. Referrals.  By telling my friends and family what I’m up to in my business life, they then know something about how I make a living – teaching email marketing, and social media, and helping small businesses boost their marketing efforts. I have become known in my personal world as THE guy who does that. This has led to friends referring their friends who need business support. I generally don’t ask my friends and family directly for support, but their knowledge of my business helps me in various ways. For instance, when we come together for various gatherings, the conversations often start at a greater depth because they’ve been following my life and are somewhat caught up with my progress. Instead of “what’s new“, the conversations more often start with “Hey, I remember you mentioning that you lead street tree planting efforts” – any idea of how we can get that going in my neck of the woods?”

As with any email newsletter, you want to follow the basic rules of thumb – keeping the newsletter brief; having a great subject line; putting the call to action towards the top, and using graphics and links sparingly.  If you invite your friends and family to write back about what has moved them about what you’ve written, they often will – and, I promise, this feedback will be interesting and possibly useful.

If you ever need encouragement on trying this out, feel free to get in touch. If you’d like to receive my friends & family monthly email (The Eleven), you can sign up for it here.

You can do this, and I truly believe it will lead to great things!

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Thanks to Yehudah for this article from May 2024 on Kinkeeping!

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Cool your roof/house/planet by painting it white with Kool Seal

Paint your roof whiteCool your roof/house/planet

I’ve been having a conversation about roof cooling products (yes, I know solar is coming, etc..) – and, in the meantime – one can paint the roof with this or something like it. Please consider if you are having roof work done.

Here are some more comments on this from Mark Lakeman, one of the founders of The City Repair Project and a personal local hero of mine.  

1. I spray painted two roofs this summer, took an hour and a half for one, two and a half for the other….immediate 35 degree reduction on the second floor !!

2. Pressure wash and sweep first! The paint needs no primer, but it does need two coats. Best to do first coat without trying too hard, because the porous roof just tries to soak it in. The second coat is when you care about about even coverage, but it freaking WORKS !!!!

3. The product is available at Sherwin Williams, called “Kool Roof”, latex, will extend the life of your dark roof by many years of you do it soon enough, before the old roof wears too far.. This could easily become a new business line for house painters or anyone who has the equipment for such + it doesn’t involve replacing a roof – just painting it (I know, not an easy task).

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Maria: What’s it made out of? Will it pollute the run off when the rains come?

Mark: Good question Maria. It should be much less toxic than the petroleum-based composite shingles that it covers. Of course composite shingles shed petroleum as well as fiberglass. On the other hand this latex paint Shields and caps that stuff and according to my biologist neighbor is relatively innocuous when it goes into the ground or even gets to a stream. The best thing about this is that it can extend the life of an otherwise dark roof by many years, which is really great for the Earth

Mark Lakeman Albert, one of the least reported stories of the Obama Administration is that he appointed dr. David Chang to be head of the Environmental Protection Agency. In his first week in office David Chang called for the country to paint roofs and South walls white. As I recall, he said then that we could reduce the urban thermal Mass contribution to heating the planet to pre 19th century levels if we did this. Of course the media did not help by not reporting it, which is why we’re talking about it now and not then

Mark Lakeman About solar panels versus white roofs, I don’t think that they are mutually exclusive at all. Solar panels don’t tend to take up your entire roof surface, sometimes only a small portion. In fact you can paint your roof white right now and then install your panels later. Best, order your roof to be white when you first get it and use metal roofing because that is the best choice for many reasons. Metal roofs last the longest, are virtually permanent, or require no maintenance, and ultimately are recyclable anyway. You can’t lose with metal roofs, better in every respect. Besides the lower initial cost of tab roofing, it has few other advantages. You’re buying garbage that is bad for your planet and your babies.

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Just cause – this got too interesting 🙂 My friend Joe in Port Townsend is a genius, so it’s fun to read what he has to say :

Joe: IMHO it is pretty good stuff. The major issue is that the way asphalt tar based roofing works is that it constantly reseals that gaps that form from expansion and contraction due to temp changes, by heating above the softening point of the asphalt. Defeating that mechanism, if you make the surface of your roof substantially cool, certainly invites leaks.
I ended up using a different product that I like better called SnowRoof that goes on in 2 applications, a basecoat primer and a topcoat. Brilliant engineering IMHO: it rolls on and then changes color pretty dramatically when it cures, which makes it VERY easy to see if you have adequate thickness.

Mark: Joe, I respectfully engage in a conversation with you about this issue. The conclusion you draw about inviting leaks is actually why we advocate for changing the color of a roof. I don’t mean to be argumentative because you may have a very good point, however when you paint the roof white it tends to stop the expansion and contraction affect that you mentioned. This is considered a good thing because expanding and Contracting breaks down the shingle. By keeping it one color it simply doesn’t expand and contract nearly as much if at all. You say that creates leaks, I say that it prevents them. It would be good to find literature that actually suggest that it encourages leaks, because that does not seem logical to me. Also the latex is a flexible seal so it Shields the surface of the shingle. Although I respect what you are saying, I would be very surprised if we have leaks in this old roof of ours that we’ve just painted for another decade

Joe: if it prevented expansion and contraction that would be a VERY different situation. It does not. The range of temps and the differential thermal expansion of materials used matters. The question is how much reduction you actually achieve, at both ends.
Plenty of research on the interior temperature of different color automobiles. I have lived under several colors of roof in the past, including gray, white and reflective (aluminized). I suppose I should go measure the temps of the skin of my car and the aluminum truck utility boxes and my white cargo trailer that are all parked within a feet of one another and post that here and you can calculate the differential expansion for roofing materials.
I am an empiricist and I measure shit, and built test fixtures, when in doubt. I have done a lot of research into the infrared emissivity of different colors, that was required because I could not find published relevant research.
I made a series of “patchwork” ripstop sleeping bags trying to find what color could go coldest w/o emitting IR to the point where it cooled the surface below the dew point (inside surface or outside surface) and started condensing. The reason people use elastomer roof treatments is to address thermal expansion, which is an issue any time you have penetrations in your membrane. Standing seam metal roofing was developed in an effort to address the leaks.
I am willing to wager that an attic fan can have a lot more impact than a bunch of white paint, But we ought to stop blathering and do the math, We do not need to find peer reviewed papers to evaluate stuff we can do with 5th grade arithmetic.

Fluke IR thermometers, here we come. Surface Temp readings will be added in a few minutes.

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Social Media is Many Things to Many People

The many faces of social media

The more I use social media over the years the more convinced I am that it is very hard to say exactly what it is. There are various platforms and these are often hard to explain simply. I’ve been training people on how to use social media platforms like Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, and others for about 11 years (in 2019).

I first started out by teaching classes in my living room – mainly – how does one use Facebook – personal pages vs. business pages + netiquette – how to be in those places and look like you have a cleu. As the various platforms have expanded their feature sets and made things a bit more difficult for businesses to reach their fans how people use them has changed.  Here are some of the new uses that I am experiencing and seeing in the field.

1. Some people are just using the systems as a messaging system – an example would be FB messenger. I note that I am having more and more personal “email-like” interactions via FB messenger than in the past. FB messenger seems to be replacing email in terms of personal connections/conversations in my world.

2. People pick their platforms and stick with them. I know a number of people who are mainly on one platform and that’s it. My next-door neighbor runs an Instagram page for his crystal business.  He’s up to 142K followers. I encouraged him to get going with email marketing – and he has, but really, he’s having so much success and fun with Instagram.. that he’s pretty happy with that one platform. Personally, I don’t recommend having all your eggs in one basket (ie, make sure to be list-building – that’s yours…) – but I see this across the board. People who are mainly on Twitter or FB – find a home and stay there.

3. Then, there’s how one spends their time on FB. I used to spend much more time on the newsfeed – and I’m sure many still do. But ever since I discovered Friends’ Lists and how to segment my friends + see all the posts of those who I most want to follow/learn from.. that has changed my FB experience dramatically. I also am using FB much more to network with others and connect around business topics in relevant groups. Active business or interest groups have changed my thinking about how a small, dedicated group of people can come together for a common purpose and really elevate everyone’s experience.

I’ve been looking for more insight into where people delve into how these prominent tools/platforms are being used – in non-obvious ways, but have not really found what I’m looking for. So, I’ll try putting out my own thinking on the topic and see how that goes.

Do you use social media in a way that you think was not intended by the creators?  Please share below!

Have a great Summer – Albert Kaufman, Albertideation, Portland, Oregon, The United States

PS – Please join my email list. I have a few different projects I’m working on and I’d love you along for the ride!